There is nothing wrong with being a dreamer. Every success story started with a dream that grew to become a reality. However, people don't just give up on their dreams directly, instead they gradually start altering their beliefs about their dreams and end up settling for things that are far less. But you always have decision. I know it might not be easy. But you have to know that is possible and it’s your job to push yourself. Here are some tip to help you do so:
1. Get a piece of paper
Identify your goal and make a long list of the things that are supposedly taking you toward that goal.The physical act of writing down clarifies what you want, makes it real and tangible, prevents you from forgetting about it, and motivates you to take actions and overcome resistance. It will also provide a filter for other opportunities that can quickly become distractions that pull you off course; only by writing down your goals will you be able to evaluate these opportunities.
2. Fear setting
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” – Seneca.
Our mind is super loud and we tend to over think to the point that it prevents us from taking actions.
Tim Ferriss, the author of "The 4-Hour Workweek," developed a simple three steps process he calls "fear setting." Begin by dividing a piece of paper into three columns.
- In the first column, write down all of the things that could go wrong if your attempt fail. Think of the most terrible things possible.
-In the second column, determine ways that you can mitigate the possibility of each of those bad consequences from happening.
-In the third column, think of how you would recover from each of the scenarios you imagined and wrote in the first column.
"You come away from that exercise realizing, 'Wow, I was getting extremely anxious and all worked up over something that is completely preventable, reversible, or just not a very big deal,'" Ferriss says
3. Do not focus on your goals
Reggie Rivers, a professional broadcaster and motivational speaker, said “you can’t stop life from happening but you can choose how to respond.” When you focus on the part that you can control you tend to achieve. You don’t know what the outcome is going to be but you know your behavior is the only thing that can get you to your goals. So get your mind off the goal and keep it on the process and enjoy this process without stressing yourself. You can be productive without destroying you health. Break down your task into manageable tasks. Just get 1% better everyday by Adding a simple adjustment to your daily routine and before you know it, your task is complete
4. Find and eliminate your “Herbies”
“Don’t confuse movement with progress” - Denzel Washington
We often invest too much time and effort pursing projects that don't lead to accomplishing anything. As Greg McKeown puts it in his book “Essentialism,” “It is not about getting more things done, it is about getting the right things done.” Phelps tells us in his book how to cut out distractions and focus on getting the best results by eliminating the “slowest hiker.” Imagine you're a Scout Master and are taking your troop on a 10 mile hike and need to arrive at camp before sunset. But there is this one boy, Herbie, who is really behind everyone. Knowing Herbie is the key, you take all the stuff out of Herbie's pack and distributes it amongst the troop.then you put Herbie in the lead and all others follow behind him. In your life, who or what are your Herbies?
5. Master your willpower
You made a plan and now all you have to do is stick with it. In order to do that you have to stay motivated. But our willpower is a finite resource meaning that it drains during the day. And one of the biggest things that drain your willpower is emotional control and that includes making decisions. For example you have a task but you’re exhausted so the decision to make it keeps going through your mind back and forth, and that drains your willpower. The trick here is not to strengthen your willpower but to set a life where you drain the least amount by making yourself rules that can’t be broken, setting an environment that makes it easier for you and preparing yourself for situations where you don’t have the environment that you need.
Remember, anything you want you can get and when you get it, reach back and help others to get it because “each one, teach one” - Denzel Washington
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