Everyone tells you that you should be moving on by now, they’ll give you tips and tricks like they’re the masters of the art of letting go. It’s not that you can’t let go, you just don’t want to. You don’t want to admit that you were wrong about that person, that your heart wasn’t so smart about choosing where to fall. All those feelings you wasted on someone who’s not there anymore, the beautiful memories you created together are transforming into agony. You just can’t accept the fact that this epoch of your life with him has gone in vain. You can’t completely accept the fact that he’s not there anymore, but you have to start all over again, and here are three reasons why you should do so:

1) You need to give yourself a break
What you may not realize is, you owe your heart a break, after all this hassle it’s been through. Your heart needs to calm down a bit after the storm of emotions you made it experience. You owe yourself a chance to just stop running around in circles and inhale some air. People fall out of love for all different reasons, some love stories were not meant to last forever, and yours was no exception. You’re not the only one in this world who has to deal with a break up. People grow apart all the time. Beating yourself up or feeling sorry for your broken heart won’t get you anywhere.


2) Go back on track
It’s time to work on your life routine solo, adapting with the new situation, making decisions without thinking of a partner. It’s not all bad though, you have now more time to work on yourself, catch up with friends, go to that concert you always wanted to go but couldn’t because your ex wasn’t into that type of music. Rearrange your priorities, and your own happiness should always be number one! Since you have so much time for yourself, learn something new; learn how to feel safe in your own skin instead of looking for safety with someone else. Don’t go so hard on yourself for not being able to let go, nobody can forget and move on overnight, take all the time you need to get your life and yourself back on track again, keeping in mind that the faster, the better.

3) Let people in
The hardest part about starting all over is, letting someone new to your life; it takes a lot of hard work to be able to open up again. You have to go through the whole process of getting close to a new guy, figure their personalities out, discover what they like and dislike, listen to their happy and painful memories, let them see your dark side, and eventually feel totally yourself around them. It takes a lot of work and time to start falling again, to trust in a new stranger with your little secrets. You deserve to get yourself out of your misery and get to know new people. Don’t rush, don’t push people away, and maybe this time, it will work out right.